94: Resentment, Hostility, Scarcity… Is This Modern Dating? W/ Jordan Stephens
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94: Resentment, Hostility, Scarcity… Is This Modern Dating? W/ Jordan Stephens

Ash and Moya are joined by author, musician and podcaster Jordan Stephens to talk about changing attitudes to gender, dating and relationships. Are we regressing into essentialist ideas of gender? Is having a boyfriend embarrassing? Plus: advice for a disappointed wife – with help from our audience. Recorded live at EartH in East London on 16 December (apologies for the bass bleed from the other venue!).

Further reading: Sam Jennings – The Trouble with Men and Women; Chanté Joseph – Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?

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Music by Matt Huxley.

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