98: Are We Obsessed With Having Our Feelings Validated?
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98: Are We Obsessed With Having Our Feelings Validated?

Have we become reliant on having our feelings validated instead of taking valid criticism? Ash and Moya offer their own strategies for worrying less about what other people think. Plus: how to deal with an ex who’s found God and turned rightwing but is still hanging around.

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Music by Matt Huxley.

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