Red Flags

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I Yearn for a Soulmate. So Why Do I Also Want to Open My Relationship?

Sophie K Rosa

There’s no ultimate authority that will adjudicate on whether what you are doing is "toxic", writes Sophie K Rosa. Better to ask: how does it feel to you and your partner?

A woman looks into the distance as a man lies in bed topless

How Do I Know My Boyfriend Has Never Hurt Another Woman?

Sophie K Rosa

The other will always elude us, writes Sophie K Rosa, and that is inherent to desire. It might also be the source of great anxiety, particularly in a post-#MeToo moment.

My Partner Loves Helping Others – I Wish He Would Give It a Rest

Sophie K Rosa

Jealousy isn't always about sex, writes Sophie K Rosa, other types of intimacy can evoke even more powerful feelings. But this isn't always a bad thing.

Am I Shallow for Caring About My Appearance?

Sophie K Rosa

A reader asks Sophie K Rosa whether her deep concern with her physical appearance is compatible with her politics.

I’m in a Happy Relationship With a Man. Would I Be Happier With a Woman?

Sophie K Rosa

Wanting potentially opposing things can be painful, writes Sophie K Rosa - but seeing your sexual orientation as fluid can also be affirming.

Was I Ghosted by a Narcissist, or Does He Just Have ADHD?

Sophie K Rosa

Being ‘ghosted’ sucks; it’s only natural to want an explanation, writes Sophie K Rosa. But clinical diagnoses and pop psychology won’t provide the answers that you’re looking for.

I Want to Be Cool With It, but I Can’t Stand My Partner’s Friendship With Their Ex

Sophie K Rosa

Our uncertain times can make us locked down and possessive, writes Sophie K Rosa, particularly when it comes to romance. But embracing your partner’s connection to their ex might actually invigorate your relationship.

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I Hate Dating Apps. But How Else Am I Supposed to Find Love?

Sophie K Rosa

Dating apps deprive us of an intangible but vital magic, writes Sophie K Rosa. Here's how to subvert their logic.

How Do I Escape the Corporate Nightmare I’ve Created for Myself?

Sophie K Rosa

A reader with a corporate job regrets the concessions they’ve made to capitalism. Plotting the revolution isn’t the only way to resist your conditions, writes Sophie K Rosa.

How Do I Stop Fearing Conflict?

Sophie K Rosa

Be more compassionate towards yourself, writes Sophie K Rosa - conflict isn’t the only way of being honest.

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How the Fuck Am I Supposed to Menstruate Under Capitalism?

Sophie K Rosa

In some times and some cultures, menstruating people have been hidden away, writes Sophie K Rosa. In the UK, we are expected to hide in plain sight, pretending to be something we are not: pain-free, sane, happy, energised.

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I Know the Nuclear Family Is Flawed But What Else Can I Do?

Sophie K Rosa

Sophie K Rosa advises a single parent still hankering for their child’s father and wondering what it is they really need.

Israel’s Genocide in Palestine Fills Me With Sorrow. How Do I Keep on Going?

Sophie K Rosa

Don’t pathologise yourself, Sophie K Rosa tells a reader who feels alone in their despair at events in Gaza. Instead, find like-minded comrades and channel your rage into collective action.

My Partner Is Broke. Should I Pay His Rent?

Sophie K Rosa

Sophie K Rosa tells a woman wondering how to help her broke boyfriend that, while sharing resources can be a way to put your politics into practice, reciprocity and communication are key.

two people's arms are entangled on a bed

Do My Violent Kinks Make Me Less of a Feminist?

Sophie K Rosa

In this month’s instalment of Red Flags, Sophie K Rosa doesn’t sugar-coat her advice to a reader unsettled by her desire to submit to her boyfriend.

I Used to Do All the Cleaning. Now I Don’t Fancy My Partner

Sophie K Rosa

A reader asks Sophie K Rosa if fading attraction is inevitable in a long-term relationship - or if it could be affected by who does the housework.

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I Have Incurable Cancer. How Do I Live the Time I Have Left?

Sophie K Rosa

Sophie K Rosa addresses a reader with stage four breast cancer, and shares her own relationship with death.

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My Friendships Mean Everything to Me. Why Do I Still Long for Romantic Love?

Sophie K Rosa

Sophie K Rosa advises a reader to approach their yearning for romance with curiosity, not frustration, in this Valentine's Day instalment of Red Flags.

I Yearn for a Soulmate. So Why Do I Also Want to Open My Relationship?

Sophie K Rosa

How Do I Know My Boyfriend Has Never Hurt Another Woman?

Sophie K Rosa

My Partner Loves Helping Others – I Wish He Would Give It a Rest

Sophie K Rosa

I’m in a Happy Relationship With a Man. Would I Be Happier With a Woman?

Sophie K Rosa

Was I Ghosted by a Narcissist, or Does He Just Have ADHD?

Sophie K Rosa

I Want to Be Cool With It, but I Can’t Stand My Partner’s Friendship With Their Ex

Sophie K Rosa

How Do I Escape the Corporate Nightmare I’ve Created for Myself?

Sophie K Rosa

How Do I Stop Fearing Conflict?

Sophie K Rosa

I Know the Nuclear Family Is Flawed But What Else Can I Do?

Sophie K Rosa

Israel’s Genocide in Palestine Fills Me With Sorrow. How Do I Keep on Going?

Sophie K Rosa

My Partner Is Broke. Should I Pay His Rent?

Sophie K Rosa

I Used to Do All the Cleaning. Now I Don’t Fancy My Partner

Sophie K Rosa

I Have Incurable Cancer. How Do I Live the Time I Have Left?

Sophie K Rosa

My Friendships Mean Everything to Me. Why Do I Still Long for Romantic Love?

Sophie K Rosa

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I Yearn for a Soulmate. So Why Do I Also Want to Open My Relationship?

Sophie K Rosa

How Do I Know My Boyfriend Has Never Hurt Another Woman?

Sophie K Rosa

My Partner Loves Helping Others – I Wish He Would Give It a Rest

Sophie K Rosa

Am I Shallow for Caring About My Appearance?

Sophie K Rosa

I’m in a Happy Relationship With a Man. Would I Be Happier With a Woman?

Sophie K Rosa

Was I Ghosted by a Narcissist, or Does He Just Have ADHD?

Sophie K Rosa

I Want to Be Cool With It, but I Can’t Stand My Partner’s Friendship With Their Ex

Sophie K Rosa

I Hate Dating Apps. But How Else Am I Supposed to Find Love?

Sophie K Rosa

How Do I Escape the Corporate Nightmare I’ve Created for Myself?

Sophie K Rosa

How Do I Stop Fearing Conflict?

Sophie K Rosa

How the Fuck Am I Supposed to Menstruate Under Capitalism?

Sophie K Rosa

I Know the Nuclear Family Is Flawed But What Else Can I Do?

Sophie K Rosa

Israel’s Genocide in Palestine Fills Me With Sorrow. How Do I Keep on Going?

Sophie K Rosa

My Partner Is Broke. Should I Pay His Rent?

Sophie K Rosa

Do My Violent Kinks Make Me Less of a Feminist?

Sophie K Rosa

I Used to Do All the Cleaning. Now I Don’t Fancy My Partner

Sophie K Rosa

I Have Incurable Cancer. How Do I Live the Time I Have Left?

Sophie K Rosa

My Friendships Mean Everything to Me. Why Do I Still Long for Romantic Love?

Sophie K Rosa

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