77: What’s the Difference Between a Girl and a Woman?
Moya Lothian-McLean and Ash Sarkar
Ash and Moya talk about their animal natures and fear of motherhood in a chat spurred by last week’s interview with Sophie Gilbert.
If I Speak...
If I Speak is a podcast from Moya Lothian-McLean and Ash Sarkar where the personal meets the political. Every week they tackle social dilemmas, cultural phenomena and the frustrations of modern life.
76: How Porn Went Mainstream and Changed Everything W/ Sophie Gilbert
Moya Lothian-McLean and Ash Sarkar
Ash and Moya talk to critic Sophie Gilbert about the pornification of pop culture during the ’90s and ’00s.
75: The World Needs More Flirting. Here’s How
Moya Lothian-McLean and Ash Sarkar
Moya and Ash tackle a topic that turns up in the If I Speak mailbox every week. Plus: advice on a failed friendship.
74: Can Your Racial Identity Change Over Time?
Ash Sarkar & Moya Lothian-McLean
Ash and Moya discuss where their sense of their racial identity comes from – is it their shade, their community, or how they’re treated?
73: Where Did It All Go Wrong on the Dancefloor?
Moya Lothian-McLean and Ash Sarkar
Having rekindled her appetite for fun, Ash now has a five-point plan to rescue the dancefloor from disaster.
72: Why Does It Always Have to Be Me Taking Responsibility?
Moya Lothian-McLean and Ash Sarkar
Ash and Moya descend into the guilt vortex for a conversation about family responsibility.
71: If I’m So Angry Then Why Am I Crying?!
Moya Lothian-McLean and Ash Sarkar
Moya presents an intrusive thought about rage and resentment. Plus: help for a listener whose friends have taken an anti-trans turn.
70: Can You Ever Change What You Want?
Ash Sarkar and Moya Lothian-McLean
Moya and Ash talk about what to do with their impossible desires and offer advice to a listener whose female bestie has ditched him.
69: Is Marriage a Hard Border? W/ Jeremy Atherton Lin
Ash Sarkar and Jeremy Atherton Lin
Is marriage like an island, or more of an open house? Ash talks about state-sanctioned relationships with memoirist Jeremy Atherton Lin.
68: Help! My Housemate Is a Pig
Ash Sarkar and Moya Lothian-McLean
Moya and Ash deal with your dilemmas, including a daughter who wants to give away her inheritance and a renter whose housemate is a total pig.
67: What’s Up With Generation Alpha?
Moya Lothian-McLean and Ash Sarkar
Moya and Ash think about how kids these days are shaped by parenting, advertising, social media and anxiety.
66: I’m Right, You’re Wrong, End Of!
Moya Lothian-McLean and Ash Sarkar
Moya has a thought about our need for certainty, and Ash responds with a claim about polarised thinking.
65: Has Your Smartphone Broken Your Brain?
Ash Sarkar and Moya Lothian-McLean
Ash and Moya face up to all the ways their smartphone has warped their minds.
64: What Is the Female Gaze?
Ash Sarkar and Moya Lothian-McLean
What do straight women find attractive? Ash has a big theory about sensuality. Plus: what to do when your boss is a bigot.
63: Do People Just Want to Be Told What to Do?
Moya Lothian-McLean and Ash Sarkar
Moya has a big theory about our susceptibility to authoritarianism.
62: I’m Not Sure I Want to Call Myself a Feminist Anymore…
Ash Sarkar and Moya Lothian-McLean
Ash and Moya confront their feelings after a bad week for feminism.
61: Can Friendships Cross Class Lines? W/ Natasha Brown
Ash Sarkar
Ash speaks to Natasha Brown about the big questions raised by her second novel, Universality, before tackling a dilemma about selling your soul.
60: Are We Too Addicted to Convenience?
Ash Sarkar and Moya Lothian-McLean
Ash and Moya answer a mystery question and wonder if our quest for a friction-free life was a mistake.