105: How Can I Connect During Sex?
Ash Sarkar and Moya Lothian-McLean
Ash has a big theory about why so many aspects of modern life feel like masturbation: private and self-centred. Plus: dating a communist.
If I Speak...
If I Speak is a podcast from Moya Lothian-McLean and Ash Sarkar where the personal meets the political. Every week they tackle social dilemmas, cultural phenomena and the frustrations of modern life.
104: Why Are Young Brits Flocking to Dubai?
Moya Lothian-McLean and Ash Sarkar
Moya and Ash wonder what’s attracting young British ex-pats and influencers to cities like Dubai and Bali.
103: Will Getting Back to Nature Heal My Feelings of Burnout?
Moya Lothian-McLean and Ash Sarkar
Ash wants to cultivate a relationship with nature, but Moya detects a deeper problem with burnout. Plus: a listener who’s lost sexual interest in her partner.
102: I’m Not Ready for A Relationship – but I Don’t Want Him to See Other People
Moya Lothian-McLean and Ash Sarkar
Tough love for a listener in a situationship. Plus: Ash and Moya sink their teeth into Wuthering Heights discourse.
101: Her Toxic Ex Returned and Now Our Friendship Is Ruined
Ash Sarkar and Moya Lothian-McLean
It’s a dilemmas special! (Because our listeners have a lot of problems.)
100: We’re 100 Episodes Old – Ask Us Anything!
Ash Sarkar & Moya Lothian McLean
Our audience of Special Ones ask us anything – from the personal to the political to the completely potty.
99: How Do You Know When It’s Time to Quit?
Ash Sarkar & Moya Lothian-McLean
Moya asks Ash how to trust your gut when it comes to leaving or staying in a job, friendship or romance.
98: Are We Obsessed With Having Our Feelings Validated?
Ash Sarkar & Moya Lothian-McLean
Ash and Moya offer their own strategies for worrying less about what other people think. Plus: an ex who’s found God and turned rightwing.
97: When Will I Start Feeling Like a Grown-up?
Moya Lothian-McLean and Ash Sarkar
Ash has a big theory about what makes someone into a proper adult. Plus: can you make a casual hook-up turn serious?
96: Why Are Women Choosing Looks Instead of Books?
Ash Sarkar & Moya Lothian-McLean
Ash and Moya start the year with a tough conversation about the beauty regime that rules over us all.
95: Does British Culture Need Saving? W/ Lanre Bakare
Ash Sarkar & Moya Lothian-McLean
Culture writer Lanre Bakare talks to Ash and Moya about the precarious state of culture in post-Covid Britain, live in Manchester.
94: Resentment, Hostility, Scarcity… Is This Modern Dating? W/ Jordan Stephens
Ash Sarkar & Moya Lothian-McLean
Ash and Moya are joined by Rizzle Kicks star Jordan Stephens to talk about changing attitudes to gender and relationships.
93: I’m Addicted to Guilt. What’s Wrong With Me?
Ash Sarkar & Moya Lothian-McLean
Ash and Moya debate the pros and cons of feeling shame and advise a listener whose best friend has a mean streak.
92: Should We Say Something About Women’s Shrinking Bodies?
Ash Sarkar and Moya Lothian-McLean
Moya wonders if politeness is stopping us from seriously addressing women’s shrinking bodies and changing faces.
91: If There’s No ‘Ethical Consumption’, Can I Just Buy What I Want?
Ash Sarkar & Moya Lothian-McLean
Ash and Moya talk about the urge to beautify and shopping as a numbing mechanism.
90: Are Rightwing Politics Affecting My Sex Life? W/ Dr Annabel Sowemimo
Moya Lothian-McLean and Ash Sarkar
Moya and Ash talk to Dr Annabel Sowemimo about STI stigma, period trackers and how to afford another baby.
89: Am I Doomed to Get More Conservative As I Get Older?
Ash Sarkar & Moya Lothian-McLean
A mystery question leads Ash and Moya into conversation about whether their politics are changing as they age.
88: What Are the Ethics of Oversharing?
Moya Lothian-McLean and Ash Sarkar
After listening to the new album by Lily Allen – the patron saint of oversharing – Moya and Ash debate the ethics of spilling your guts in public.